·
Saturday, 28 October 2006
“Leaf” Well-Enough Alone I Always Say…
The women who clean
the courtyards and streets every morning have been working overtime. They
cannot abide leaves.
Every morning they
use their twig brooms to sweep up every single errant leaf in the courtyard. The
raw earth underneath the debris looks vulnerable and barren for awhile, but
soon more leaves fall. Tomorrow morning, the women will return in the predawn
hours and take them away.
All year round the
local street-cleaning women arrive early to tackle this job. Everyday they are out there by before 7 AM:
sweeping, sweeping, sweeping. But lately they arrive even earlier because they
must deal aggressively with the falling leaves.
They often cast an
evil eye at our small fenced garden where leaves find refuge from their brooms.
The local cats favor our yard now because the leaves make a cozy insulated bed
for them.
I am puzzled by
this need to gather up all the leaves.
They are more
vigilant about leaves than they are about rubbish!
In the park there
are teams of dedicated women in orange vests wielding various primitive raking
and sweeping tools, valiantly doing battle with Mother Nature’s leaves. They are at war.
I observe the piles
of burning leaves. They smolder all day long. The flower beds and pathways in
the park are also raw and bare. The leaves are stripped away and the soil is turned. They are clearly putting everything in order
for the winter months ahead.
Wouldn’t they be
surprised to see our techniques? Back in our Stateside home, we leave grass
cuttings on the ground to act as mulch. We collect leaves and blanket our flower
beds with 5-6 inches of moldering leaves to keep the bulbs cozy during the cold
winter. We actually collected bagged
leaves and cuttings to augment those from our own oak tree! The vegetation also adds nutrients to enrich
the soil and encourages worms to go to work to produce more rich black earth.
Mark and I are
certified Master Gardeners, but our neighbors here in Crimea do not know that. They observe our laissez-faire approach to
our garden with raised eyebrows. What
appears to them as neglect is really just a benign approach. While they seem thwarted by nature, we seem
oblivious to the threat.
Don’t these
foolish Americans know these evil leaves must be dealt with?
No.
·
Friday, 27 October 2006
Fall Facts of Life (The “Damp” Facts of Peace
Corps Ukraine)
Everything in our
flat is clammy, damp, and sticky these days - the bed sheets, the smelly
feather pillows, my clean clothes, even the keyboard of my laptop.
“This too shall
pass,” I say, as my mother might have.
The parakeets, the only creatures around, just stare at me. “This damp
place gets on my nerves!” I joke, but the birds just ignore my lame play on
words.
This time of year,
everything is damp. Nothing dries – towels
damp from drying my face last night are still damp this morning. The socks, towels and trousers I washed
Saturday are still wet to the touch. I smell
them and know I will have to launder them again. Meanwhile, the pile of dirty laundry grows an
the whole flat smells musty and stale.
Everyday I inspect
the closet. I look at the back wall and check
the back wall for evidence of mold. I
also check my shoes. My leather shoes on
the closet floor, require attention. The perspiration and oils on leather make a
good place for mildew and mold to set up housekeeping. I panicked the first time I saw my favorite
black pumps violated with a crop of green stuff. A good stiff brush eliminates
the evidence from the shoes (but not from my rather squeamish memory).
My middle-class
American shoe philosophy (invest in good, healthy leather shoes for years of
use) is not practical in this environment.
The locals wear vinyl shoes. (See
advice below).
I paw through my
clothes checking for signs of mold or mildew.
Natural fibers are at risk.
Again, my typical American penchant for natural fibers means my cotton
and wool sweaters, etc, are likely to remain damp (and smelly!) and may mold or
mildew overnight. I will not be bringing
many of my original clothes back to the USA with me – between laundering
issues, mold and mildew and general wear-and-tear, they will be in the rag bag
(many already have gone that path!)
Once again, a
cultural experience in disguise. (See advice below)
Why is it so
clammy? Kerch, at the junction of two
seas (the Black Sea and the Sea of Azov) should be a damp climate, but usually,
it really is not noticeable. Summer
humidity is not high and sea breezes keep us comfortable.
But this time of
year, the autumn season, is rainy. The old buildings absorb moisture. You can
see the darkened spots on the foundations. Moisture is wicked from the soil and
penetrates the buildings. With windows closed against the cooler weather, the
moisture is trapped indoors.
Inside, the
radiators are still dormant since it is not really cold yet. Once the city turns on the heat, things will
dry out and become more comfortable again.
Of course by then the snow will be falling and a different set of challenges
will become apparent.
OK, If I had Packing “Do-Overs”…
I would travel
lighter.
Lots lighter.
That is part of
what attracts people to Peace Corps life isn’t it? This is a great opportunity
to simplify, streamline and define what is important to you.
This is a chance
to change or challenge old behaviors and adapt new ways. This is a chance to
stop hiding behind things and just be.
OK, this is not a
philosophy treatise! But following is a little of my advice on shoes and
clothing items.
SHOE ADVICE: Vinyl
shoes are a good choice in Ukraine. They
are the norm at the local bazaar. While vinyl shoes do not allow your feet to
breathe, they do not seem to grow crops of mold or mildew. – a point to consider if you plan to live
happily in this environment.
Vinyl shoes also stay
shiny with little maintenance – walking on muddy, wet street most of the year
makes this an important point too. (Wait
till you live through “mud season”!)
Vinyl shoes are
fairly inexpensive so, you can buy a couple pair, wear them everyday all season
and then toss them out when the season changes – no mold, no storage problems
and fun new shoes!
Reminder: people
doff their shoes and don slippers when they enter a private home here. When you select shoes to bring, keep that in
mind. (I brought my favorite footwear –
a pair of great lace-up boots…what a pain it was putting them on and off 6
times a day…now I have slip-on shoes.)
CLOTHING ADVICE: Manmade
fibers are more practical here in Ukraine. They dry quicker than cotton or wool
and are not prone to mold or mildew. Ever
smell a wet sheep? Wool really stinks
when damp!
The local bazaar
features many towels, sweaters and socks made of fast-drying fibers. Manmade fibers also hold up better in the
laundry – cotton, linen and wool fibers tear and stretch when you wring them or
hang them; while manmade stuff does not.
I do recommend silk
thermal wear – it is lightweight, easy to layer, insulates well, wicks
moisture, and breaths…very important when close to the body or your odors will
become offensive. I hand wash mine, but
silk is a “steel magnolia” - it has a tensile strength almost equal to steel,
though it is touchy about soaps…do some research.
·
Thursday, 26 October 2006
In ordinary life we hardly realize that
we receive a great deal more than we give, and that
it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich.
- Dietrich Bonhoeffer
Gratitude and
gratefulness was the topic at our Wednesday evening English Club meeting. The question that sparked discussion was: To whom
am I grateful and what would I like to say to them?
Actually the topic
did not spark conversation. It was a little like the Wednesday evening
testimony meetings at Christian Science churches…long pregnant pauses. At church though, someone eventually rises to
speak and breaks the silence.
At English Club,
the members often wait until I force their hand in some direct way.
Getting people to use
fledgling language skills is a talent, but it also takes hard work. I come home
from the sessions tired. Yes, tired.
(Keep in mind my diverse resume when I speak of being tired: I have
worked at demanding physical jobs that required me to spend long hours outside
in the elements, ie: avionics technician in wintry northern MI…brrrrr!. Soooo “tired”
is something I have experienced!)
The topics,
selected at random each week, are drawn from a pool of topics submitted by
English Club members. We draw each topic
at the close of the meeting so people can consider the topic and come prepared
to share.
In theory anyway.
I arrive
prepared. As group leader, I spend some hours
each week preparing leading questions, finding vocabulary words and bits of poetry
or old sayings or song lyrics that may be relevant. I bring newspaper and magazine clipping to stimulate
conversation. I devise activities to get
them to speak. I work at establishing rapport…
I use my
psychology skills and the things I’ve learned from theater and drama. I rely on my on-the-job training techniques honed
from my long military career as a training manager (making boring technical stuff
interesting). I use my leadership skills and management skills to motivate them
and encourage them, and to acknowledge their successes…all this energy and drive
just to get each member to speak at least once each week.
Though this role
is challenging and often leaves me exhausted and a bit disappointed or
frustrated, I am really very grateful for this unique opportunity to learn and
grow and share.
·
Wednesday, 25 October 2006
Are there more drunks around or am I just
noticing it more?
I see drunks from
my flat windows.
Often.
Not drinking
people, or ”happy” people, but people who are absolutely blind drunk. They vomit; they can not walk even with help. I live on a quiet street. What if I lived near a bar?
It is midday as I
write this. Outside my window I see two 40-something year-old men helping a
third navigate his way home. Like a
scene in a comedy routine, the drunk in the middle suddenly loses his trousers. They are pooled around his ankles.
Some school boys
laugh and two women avert their eyes, as the two friends pull up the man’s
wayward pants and continue to steer him toward his home.
Opportunities to grow…
I am mindful that
there are so many opportunities for spiritual growth in my life.
I am grateful that
I can see the opportunities, take up the challenge, and make a difference. Often we allow ourselves to mire down in
shock, self-righteousness, indignation…or fear.
There is spiritual
activity demanded – a call to action.
·
Tuesday, 24 October 2004 – United Nations
Day
We did not leave the flat yesterday.
Mark and I sat at
our respective computers, working on our respective projects, occasionally
exchanging comments, but mostly working, working, working.
We are not
Online. We do not have Internet in our
home. Yet, we spend many, many hours
each day at our keyboards, preparing plans, documents, video and audio...
If we did not have
computers, would we work less?
Even when we
finally stop working, our recreation revolves around the computers.
No, we do not play
games on them, but with speakers attached, my laptop becomes a stereo and lets
me sing along with tunes as I do some household tasks. Later I listen to a resonant voice read a few
chapters from a James Michener novel (“Poland”) while I prepare some things for
snail-mail and scrub some laundry in a bucket.
Work done, we meet
on the couch and my computer becomes a movie theater for a few hours. We watch ”Chocolat” – the Russian
translations are flawed and/or peculiar. (Johnny Depp transcends language.)
Later, as I drift
off to sleep, the blue light from Mark’s laptop at the desk a few feet from my
head, acts as a comforting nightlight. I drift off, thinking about an e-note and
a photo I want to send to grandkids far, far away…
·
Saturday, 21 October 2006
Friday Morning I Danced and Drank
Champagne!
We had an
unexpected engagement Friday morning: a delightful program at the library. I
was asked to be the official photographer while Mark was the sound guy and
videographer. The program was dynamic and
well organized. The participants performed joyfully, making it a real pleasure
for the audience.
The program was part
of some professional training for the library staff from all 19 locations. The local staff prepared several humorous and
educational skits and put on quite a show for the assembled crowd. They work together so well and seemed to have
such fun with the events.
The team had
worked hard to prepare so when it was over the workhorses behind the scenes
cranked up the music and had a small celebration – dancing and champagne on a
Friday AM.
That is how life
is here in Ukraine – you never know when (if) there will be water or
electricity, but there will almost always be dancing, champagne and chocolate!
·
Friday, 20 October 2006
My Thursday Ended with Blessings…Blessed by
“Blessings”…
As I sit down to
write on this bright fall morning, I see I should provide some closure on the
events of Thursday. First I must add that there were many other bumps in the
road that day. (I suspect that Peace
Corps experiences are good for observing what life is like when you do not have
choices, ie: money, resources, opportunities…Many PCVs come “home” with a
greater appreciation of the
opportunities afforded them in the USA…but I digress…)
So Thursday, when
things conspired to thwart my plans, I picked up a wonderful novel, wrapped up
in a comforter and read until I finished the book. (You can call this avoiding
reality or escapism or you can say, “When you are beating your head against a
wall, just stop”!)
What a luxury to
just read! Often my novel-reading
opportunities are brief; I only make it through a few pages at a sitting. What
a pleasure to just read and read and read.
Yesterday, in my
frustrated state, I wondered if things would improve in the next chapter. Well,
I was referring to my own life, but I must say, they did (both in the novel and
in my own life!)
The book,”Blessings”
by Anna Qunindlen (a Pulitzer Prize-winning writer), drew me in and allowed me
to escape. But more than that - the
writing is good, the storyline compelling and the characters true to life. The secrets people keep and the choices they
make are topics worth exploring. After I closed the book, I remained on the couch,
thinking about my family and friends and details of life that come to light in
unexpected ways. (In this novel, Blessings happens to be the family name.)
So, refreshed and
relaxed by the rewards of a good read, I was delighted to discover hot water! I took a leisurely shower, happily washed the
dishes and when Mark came home, pleased to find my e-mail account had merely
migrated to another area of my computer.
·
Thursday, 19 October 2006
The Plans..
1. Wash greasy hair
2. Answer e-mail
3. Papier-Mâché Project
Thursday is
usually my day. There are fewer
interruptions and demands on Thursdays.
My plans for today are not grand, but by 10AM they are all foiled…
No-Water…
We have not had
any “no-water days” for a long time…weeks anyway. Lyudmila was without water
for several days recently, but we have been fortunate.
This morning there
is not even a drop in the pipes.
So much for
activities #1 & #2.
My E-Mail Disappears…
Easygoing,
flexible woman that I am, I happily settle on the couch and open my laptop.
I go to my e-mail
program and ZOUNDS! I discover that all
traces of my mailbox have disappeared!
This may be some
simple fix. I hope that “Dr. Mark” will
laugh and say something reassuring and make all my virtual friends and contacts
reappear again. But my geek-spouse will
not be home until early evening.
Activity #3 is
foiled.
I scratch my dirty
scalp and sigh.
Well, another
opportunity to be accommodating. So here
I am with my greasy hair and my other two activities for the day derailed (and
I am trying not to fret about the longer term ramifications of the disappearing
e-mail account).
This is a plot
twist I do not enjoy.
Maybe things will
improve in the next chapter.
·
Tuesday, 17 October 2006
The Intruder…
It is 3 AM. The man, clad in blue stripped pajama bottoms
and a graying t-shirt, stands nervously by the door, clutching a rolling pin in
his hand. Behind him, his wife wields a large cast iron skillet.
An intruder kicks
repeatedly at the door and tugs on the doorknob until it falls off in his
hands. He roars in frustration.
The woman
whispers, “I think we should call the police.”
It sounds like a
cliché, right down to the details that initiated this scene a few minutes
earlier.
“Mark, wake up! I
think there is someone in our building!”
I hissed as I sat up and slipped on my flip flops. Mark was close behind me as I crept
stealthily into our front entryway.
We were somewhat
relieved to find the intruder was not at our door (yet!). We could hear him muttering in the upstairs
hallway, banging his fists on the door and savagely kicking. One of those flats is vacant and the other tenant
is spending several months in Moscow, so we are the only people in the
building.
“Remind me to
speak to our neighbor about her scary friends,” I joked in a stage
whisper. Mark rolled his eyes.
Our relative relief
was short-lived when the man stumbled down the stairway and began attacking our
door.
This is when I
suggested Mark grab the rolling pin and I reached into the oven and hefted the
skillet. We stood there, thinking our separate
thoughts (I was prayerfully finding things to be grateful for and I do not know
what Mark was thinking).
We watch horrified
as the door knob falls to the floor. The
frustrated kicking grows more fierce and the muttering even more incoherent. If the intruder manages to come through the
door, which appears very likely at this moment, we will be trapped in our flat!
Both windows are barred, ostensibly to
keep intruders from accessing the flat from the street. With no other exit than the door in question,
we will be at a significant disadvantage.
I adjust my grip
on the skillet.
It seems like a
good time to call the police. Unfortunately, the textbook phrases we learned in
Russian class seem to escape, so the phone conversation was a bit
fragmented.
While Mark wrestles
with the linguistics exercise, the wanna-be intruder departs. I catch a glimpse of him stumbling drunkenly
through the dark courtyard. The light from
Cat-Woman’s building gives me a chance to see that he was probably about30-35
years old; slim with brown, short hair; and wearing a red sweatshirt and blue jeans.
He lurches with the gait of a drunk, and thankfully keeps moving with no alternate
stops in our courtyard.
The Police…
Mark’s experience
on the phone was typical of many of our phone experiences in this country. We have observed Ukrainian’s doing business
on the phone and they are very abrupt, often curt. You must get to the point
quickly because there are no pleasantries and when the business is done, the
caller simply hangs up and the phone line goes dead. It is a real
cross-cultural experience. Under the
best circumstances these phone transaction are stressful, if not intimidating. So in the deep of night with a violent
stranger pounding at the door and the challenges of the Russian language and
bureaucracy making matters more intense, Mark did an admirable job of keeping
cool on the phone.
A pair of young police
were dispatched to our flat and arrived about 15-20 minutes later. They came
in, asked a few questions and then patrolled the neighborhood on foot before
leaving. It was an uneventful
experience.
The Detectives…
Then the shrill sound
of the phone broke the silent night. It
was a follow-up call from the authorities.
There was some confusion, but it was a typically curt exchange involving
our address, which Mark repeated several times. There was a brief callback for
more information. Neither time did the
caller identify himself, Mark observed as he removed his shoes, getting ready for
bed. And, he noted that the caller
sounded slurred, like someone who has been drinking.
Mark crawled
wearily into bed. I decided to sit in
the kitchen and read a bit. I was considering whether to make some tea when a
pair of headlights rounded the corner into our courtyard. Several burly men in black leather jackets spilled
out of the vehicle. I could hear their voices, but not their words. They banged on the outside door.
More police? Detectives
perhaps? Sometimes, it is tough
to be a foreigner. One of the perks is
you get opportunities to practice your faith.
Mark let them
in. The men spilled into our tiny
kitchen.
Yes, we surmised,
these men must be detectives. (We hoped
they were anyway.)
The senior man
asked lots of questions and we certainly proved to be at a language disadvantage
in the discussion. His speech was
slurred and rapid fire, filled with words not in our textbook vocabulary. There were pregnant pauses as we deciphered
his questions with some help from his subordinates.
The senior man rolled
his eyes and shook his head - not thrilled to be dealing with stupid foreigners
it seemed. He was probably wondering:
How do these people survive? What was he
really thinking? Disdain, condescension,
frustration, even boredom or resentment… lots of attitudes to choose from.
Of course, I am
speculating on his motives and attitudes based on my experiences and beliefs.
But he and his team put their lives on the line to protect the community and I
am grateful for that.
In my experience,
people in law enforcement positions are generally pretty opinionated about
safety and security – they like to control things. These attitudes are
consistent with the nature of their job. I am sure that we represent many ideas
that are inconsistent from his.
In any case, they were
here to do their job. They looked at our
documents and asked if anything was stolen. Maybe they were disappointed or
maybe they were relieved, but they soon left us.
Their visit was more
unsettling than the actual intruder’s.
The Upshot…
Do I feel
vulnerable? No. Nothing really happened.
This was a random
incident and could happen anywhere: in the USA or elsewhere. The procedures of the local authorities are disturbing,
but the attitudes seem the same to me as what I face in the USA too.
And now Mark and I
have actually experienced the old comic cliché of hearing a prowler and wielding
rolling pins and skillets!
·
Monday, 16 October 2006
The parakeets from
their vantage point on the living room window sill sing along to the Beatles. They
seem to like “Yellow Submarine,” if cheeping is any indicator.
On the kitchen
window sill, a large pot of yellow mums smiles out at the grey day.
·
Sunday, 15 October 2006
Don't be afraid to take a big step if one is indicated.
You can't cross a chasm in two small jumps.
-
David Lloyd George
October is half gone already!
In eight months we
will be gone…
I find myself
eager to think about the future (but there is so little time between our many
projects and daily demands!) I have
explored some rather amazing volunteer opportunities available through
Americorps. Saturday, I downloaded a few
dozen organizations who work through them.
There are openings to work in
public television and with arts groups, there are wonderful technology
opportunities with libraries and schools, and there are many literacy and
language positions.
Unlike some
volunteer opportunities, you apply for the actual positions so you can choose a
community and a position, and then negotiate the hiring. You commit to about a year
and receive a small stipend and a few benefits.
This seems like an interesting way to serve and still explore the world a
bit. Or a way to test the waters in a
community you are curious about.
The operative
word, of course, is VOLUNTEER. Much like
internships offered by some organizations, these opportunities may not be
feasible for everyone, but for us, transitioning back to the USA, this may be
an excellent way to continue a life of service.
The puzzle may be
how to handle our cozy bungalow (and possessions stored there) in sunny SC.
Once our current house sitter gets restless and moves on with his own life, we
will want to find another solution. Ideas
may unfold –perhaps a return PCV couple would want to call our acre home for a
year while they write a book. Or maybe a
retiree toying with a move south would like to rent it while they negotiate
their own digs… Who knows!
I want to wait
until after Christmas to really begin to think about the future. It is hard to
stay focused on the present opportunities, as delightful as they are, when the
future looms ahead so bright and exciting.
Other Stuff on Our Minds…
English Club Halloween Party – With no pumpkins available locally, I may make
a papier-mâché jack-o’-lantern. We will bob for apples, sip hot apple juice (in
lieu of cider), playa few games, tell a few scary tales (with flashlights directed
up strategically under our chins to add an element of terror and eerie music provided
by my techno-geek spouse). I will make a
few extra masks for newcomers.
Our Newest English Club - We are starting another English Conversation
Club (or clubs) at a local school. This
involves preparing materials and building rapport with about 20 teens who will meet
weekly to practice their English by discussing American culture. It also means another evening or two each
week when we will not get home till after 8.
Mark’s Latest Work Project – He is teaching teens how to use
computers to prepare a literary news letter.
He is busy taxing his Russian skills, preparing PowerPoints and lesson
plans. The sponsor is the Children’s Library, so the adult staff requires
training too. New computers and Internet
access come with the grant, so there are technical purchases and decision, and
all the fun stuff that Mark enjoys.
Friends of Ukraine Projects – We have committed to work on website and
newsletter design and I am doing membership work and also working on a national
mentoring project for post-PC service. (Mark
is also working on the PC Ukraine website and other IT issues…)
Ukrainian Christmas (31 December) Preparations
– The library has a big
staff party on New Years Eve. December25th is not a big deal here and locals
associate the holiday evergreen tree, gift-giving and Santa with the big New
Years Eve masquerade parties. The library ladies are already practicing their
skits.
We have to prepare
a skit and costumes. We’ve juggled many costume ideas already: beach bums maybe
(we could involve the audience in the limbo as part of our skit); pirates are
always fun (Aren’t they Matey?); maybe Vikings or fur trappers or maybe square
dancers (people here always want to see our traditional American costumes so we
are at a loss for what those are actually – I always say jeans and at-shirt). I
thought maybe Native American outfits would be fun, but today Mark suggested we
surprise the library ladies and show up in Ukrainian costumes…I think we have a
winner! Sooo we shall see.
The skit may be a
bit of comedy based on the questions host country nationals usually ask Americans. There will be the expected answers and then
the answers you would like to give…gentle humor of course and we will run it past
the tutor and our English Club folks.
Peace Corps Close of Service (COS) – We are collecting PCV’s photos for a
digital presentation. Mark also asked
them all to share a photo of the Lenin Statue in each of their respective
communities. So far not too much response,
but then, in my experience, many PCVs tend to be a bit independent and maybe
even procrastinate a bit and of course limited access to the Internet slows
down transfer of documents….
I hope someone is
working on a theme song. Previous
training groups have modified songs like “Leaving on a Jet Plane” and “Hotel California”
to reflect their Ukrainian experiences in a humorous way.
This is one time I
feel bad about not actually being part of the Peace Corps. (I am now kind of an
associate member of the training group and technically I have COS paperwork -
am I a RPCT??? My situation is ambiguous
to say the least!) Anyway, sometimes I do
feel a bit like a poor kid looking through the window of a candy store - I
can’t, shouldn’t, participate actively in their events. It is
presumptuous. But, I love being part of
an organization and have spent many years in staff positions that allowed me to
use my creative energies to motivate and organize community-building events. So it is hard to not want to be involved. This
COS event is not my party and really, I am not invited to it either. Sigh.
Thanksgiving and Christmas – I did not mention these holidays, but we
will plan some ways to acknowledge these events. It will be good to be back in the USA where
we can share events with family and friends again.
We are fortunate
to have each other, but despite that and despite our previous experiences
abroad, this is a challenging experience.
I imagine some of the PCVs here who have fewer years and experiences
under their belts may be confused by their own mixed feelings about their position
in their local community.
People sometimes
call Ukraine the “Posh Corps” – compared to a mud hut in Africa, perhaps, but
the challenges here are different and they are subtle. They are challenges
none-the-less…fire burns, regardless of the temperature. This kind of work is not for the faint of heart.
I am glad to be
here. I love it here.
And, I will be
glad to return to the USA when the time comes.
·
Friday, 13 October 2006
Strangers in the night…
The fall nights
are clear and bright and quiet. All summer the park hosted temporary venues for
drinking and dancing so we often fell asleep in our cozy flat, hearing the
heavy back-beat of a dance band or a karaoke machine far into the night. The music has ceased and the nights by the
sea are quiet again.
Except for the
last few nights.
It is 3 AM. I have (again) been awakened by the sounds of
men standing just outside our window. I
emerge from deep sleep, swimming slowly to consciousness, roused by the animated
conversation just a few feet from my bed. Their voices are resonant, deep, as
if they auditioned for a movie part demanding a cello-esque tone.
The men have been
drinking. They are drunk. They speak in
Russian. I listen and realize that the
earnest conversations of drunks follows pretty much the same pattern regardless
of language or culture.
“You are my
friend, you are my best friend…we will always be friends. I love you like a
brother…better than a brother… Do you love me? Of course you do…we are friends!
We should make a toast to friendship….”
They are so
earnest. And so drunk. And so noisy.
I put the pillow
over my head and try to sleep.
My dreams are
peopled with drunken men. I wake up
tired.
·
Thursday, 12 October 2006
The sculptor looks
at the marble and carves away all that is not David.
What remains is
the masterpiece.
In theory anyway.
I mean, what happens if the sculptor hacks off something that turns out to be
essential to “David-ness”?
I keep carving
away at my life trying to uncover the essential me.
Often I feel I am making
headway, but sometimes I wander into the area of fears and doubt. Usually,
almost as soon as I am tempted to catalogue or outline disappointments, dead
ends, and sorrows, I have sense enough to turn myself around and move away from
the scene.
Inside my head, I
hear my mother’s voice whisper a quote from Mary Baker Eddy reminding me that
for “…those leaning on the sustaining Infinite, today is big with blessings.”
I regroup a bit.
On my kitchen wall
here in Kerch I have laminated and posted another familiar quote from Mary
Baker Eddy (it is found on the walls of almost every CS church I have ever been
in). As I turn away from the temptation to itemize my woes, I see the sun
streaming through the window, illuminating the words “Divine Love always has
met and always will meet every human need.”
Ahhhh, I see
now! I am not the sculptor.
I am David.
·
Wednesday, 11 October 2006
The park near our flat has become a movie
set.
As we walk to and
from our regular haunts we transit through the park and catch glimpses of
scenes being shot, actors sipping hot drinks, locals gawking.
A Russian (or
perhaps Ukrainian) rock star is directing (or producing) the film. We stand at
the edge of the crowd with the gawkers and observe awhile.
When the scene
ends one of the crew strides over to us, extends his hand to Mark and says (in
English),”You are a long way from home, aren’t you?”
“You have a good
command of the English language,” I joke when the man turns to shake my hand.
He smiles back and
replies, “I understand you are from the USA.
I am from LA.”
“Well then YOU are
a long way from home. We live here.”
He is the sole
American on the set. There are few
Americans in Kerch, so word gets around when someone arrives.
In this case, the
crew’s Russian photographer came by the Internet Center at the library to use
the lines to transmit some photos. He
met Mark there and then told the only American on the movie set about him.
Peace Corps
Volunteers are not expatriates or tourists. PCVs generally manage to keep a low
profile, living quietly among our neighbors.
But moments like this remind me that we really are not invisible. People know we are here and observe how we
live, the choices we make and our demeanor and dress.
The other day one
of Mark’s younger co-workers asked him point blank why I do not color my hair.
I seem to be an anachronism among the lovely women who live here in Kerch –
their attention to style is amazing and even in the most casual setting, they arrive
well manicured and coifed, wearing something dramatic with exotic footwear to
match. While I am not an L.L.Bean
customer, I probably resemble one compared to the local women who could pose as
trendy Spiegel’s models.
The swath of grey running
through my dark brown hair should be subdued with color, at least in the eyes of
the local women.
I get the feeling
that once you let the hair go grey, you are supposed to don a kerchief and keep
it covered. At least stop wearing it long and loose.
Not so many years
ago this would really be true. Things are changing here. I guess I am part of
changing things here, in a low-key way. I
am conspicuous (but comfortable) as I parade through the park enroute to the
library, wearing slim-cut, black jeans, my graying-hair flying.
The man from LA
said we are a long way from home…but, I think we really are home.
·
Tuesday, 10 October 2006
Another Novel…
I abandon myself
to reading “The Jane Austen Book Club” by Karen Joy Fowler. I am not a reader of Austin, but this novel
is a delightful read. (I did not avoid Austen, rather simply have not had
access…the list of authors on my to-be-read list grows rather than shrinks…What
about Dickens?...)
I have often
wished to be part of a book club.
I have often
wished to live in a community with a good library.
I conjure up
little fantasies of riding my bicycle to the library on an autumn Sunday
afternoon, to browse and linger among stacks of books. Then home later, to sit
by afire, sip some tea, cuddle with a cat under a cozy quilt in a comfy chair
and read, read, read.
The novel draws me
in, as if I am part of a group of friends.
Having limited knowledge of Austen’s work is not limiting my enjoyment
of the book. (Though I am interested in
reading a volume or two to see what I think, now that I have read some of the
observations the women in the book have made.)
I have just
decided to abandon my day’s plans in favor of wallowing in a reading orgy on
this fine fall day! Mark has tutoring
following his regular schedule at the library. It will be night when he returns
home. Now it is a crisp autumn afternoon
and this book continues to whisper my name…I like the sense of home and family it
conjures up in me, so I will make some tea, wrap my red shawl (see photo of red
shawl below) around me on my Soviet-era couch and spend a few hours with my new
‘friends”.
Some Recent Knitting Projects:
Last spring, my
thoughtful Mother-in-law (who also sent me the novel above – thanks Mom!) gave
me a great knitting book (“The Knitting Experience- Book 2: The Purl Stitch” by
Sally Melville). Below are photos of two
of the projects I have completed. This
winter I may tackle making some socks for my pet guinea pig Mark.
I
made this very soft yellow, mustard, and brown scarf on the train during our September
vacation – I can use it as a shawl or a scarf.
Because of the stitch pattern, it becomes long and narrow when I wear it
as a scarf. There is a little silver in
the yarn.
This burgundy
shawl has fringe on all three sides and looks nice with a broach holding it
closed or wrapped around the waist with a skirt or swim suit. The yarn is
cotton and I got it at the used clothing bazaar – recycled from an old sweater. I wear it often!
·
Saturday, 7 October 2006
Everything is Illuminated
Mark sought out
this DVD (“Everything is Illuminated”) for me on his recent trip to Kiev and we
thoroughly enjoyed this quirky film about life in Ukraine. The lead is played by Elijah Wood (from the
Spiderman and Hobbit films, among others).
The action takes place in western Ukraine (Odessa, Lvov, and a
fictitious village in the countryside in the Galician region). It was actually filmed across the border in
either Poland or Hungary rather than here in Ukraine!
I have had this
film on my wish-list since I first heard it was in the making in 2005. It did not disappoint me; I found it
delightful and inspiring. I wonder how it
plays for those who have little or no knowledge about Ukraine’s history,
language and culture.
Woods plays a collector
of odd memorabilia concerning his family history – he places these various
objects in zip lock bags and pins them to the wall below framed pictures of
each relative.
The story is not
really about this behavior.
The story is about
family history. The tale unfolds with
humor that may seem a stretch to American viewers, but will be appreciated by
people who have traveled and lived here in Ukraine. (There are a few moments when I hear a little
of the Saturday Night Live, wild-and-crazy-guys version of Eastern European
accents and humor in the storyline, but these moments pass.)
The story is
carried a narrator who learned most of his English for Roget’s Thesaurus, so
there is humor in the word choices. This
is especially funny to us, since we are often exposed to the odd phrases and
words people here have in the English vocabularies. (We create giggles when we speak in Russian
too.)
The film is comic,
but the ultimate subject matter is sobering.
Ukrainian history
has many brutal chapters- as a borderland (as the name Ukraine actually means)
these people have literally been caught in the crossfire in many wars and
sieges. The countryside is bathed in the
blood of victims. There are also the
tales only recently becoming public knowledge - the genocide perpetuated by Stalin
and craftily hidden from the rest of the world. (Systematically starving the farmers of
Ukraine –imagine starving to death in the breadbasket of Europe while the world
averted its eyes.)
There are also
brutal tales not shared so freely; tales concerning anti-Semitism. (“Fiddler on the Roof,” inspired by a story
written by Ukraine’s version of Mark Twain, is a small window into the pogroms
and clashes between the Jews and the Ukrainian peoples. But, we come away from that film focusing neither
on the plight of the Jews nor on the people who did nothing to stop it.) This film addresses some of this.
We close our
eyes. We deny what happens. We save only ourselves. I often wonder what it would be like to be
the child of one of the German soldiers who served Hitler. How would this impact your view on the world
or your feelings about your parents? How
would this color your world?
The film does
afford the viewer an opportunity to consider some serious material, but it is
not a heavy film. Not sobering, but
more, as the title suggest, enlightening…
(I would like to
get a copy of the book….)
·
Friday, 6 October 2006
Application Sent!
After far too many
hours of online challenges, disappointments and small victories, I finally hit the”send”
button to submit the basic application.
Hooray!
Not hooray. I do not know if it actually went
through. Sigh.
The server crashed
almost simultaneously with my key stroke. So the completed application may be
there, but the indicators may still say its status is incomplete. So after several days and lots of stress, the
application may not even be considered.
The deadline for
submitting the application was, 5 October, one minute till midnight Eastern
Time.
In the USA, it
would be easier to find ways to troubleshoot this bump in the road, but here, access
to connections is limited.
I did go to the
local phone center and placed a call to the agency in the USA, hoping to verify
it was received. I got voicemail. I left a message.
In truth, the
application was sloppy and not very professional. This is mostly because it
must be done online and I could not access the site for several days: my login
would not be accepted, my password did not work, the system would time-out, etc. Oh, and did I mention that the space bar on
my computer does not work well…I have to go back and insert spaces…
So, by the time I
accessed the application, I was already running short on time.
Completing an
initial federal application on this site takes approximately 6 hours. That is by their reckoning, probably based on
an average applicant. Of course, that is
if everything goes right and if you are not old with a long and convoluted
history of education, residences and work.
OK, I will not go
of on a rant, because, I am honestly OK with this.
Won’t it be
interesting if I get a shot at the job?
Frankly, I am well
qualified for the job and would be happy with the work demands and life in that
particular community (I have often said I would love to live in there). but I
would prefer not to begin a new job until maybe next September.
So, perhaps in a
few months I will be submitting another application when another position comes
open.
Next time my
application will be a winning one, because I have learned what needs to be done.
Mark’s schedule…
Mark has been
working hard since we returned from vacation.
He totally missed his weekend with the business trip to Kiev and then
hit the ground running here in Kerch.
He received the
grant so the next stage of work is unfolding.
With tutoring and English Club, he leaves the house at 9AM and gets home
at 8PM three days a week. And, of course
he often continues to work at home too.
Some PCVs have
very relaxed schedules and considerable time off while others work long hours.
“Lassie” the movie…
We collapsed on
the couch and watched a DVD last night: the new version of “Lassie”. The young girl in the film made us think of
our granddaughter, both in her general appearance and manner and her attitude
too.
·
Thursday, 5 October 2006
Thinking about when Zoë-walks bracketed my
daily activities…
I logged many
miles and spent many happy hours when Miss Zoë and I trekked around Greenwood
together. What began as a twice-daily
responsibility, and sometimes a burden, grew into a very special ritual.
Funny how a chore
can transform from a demand to a delight.
Zoë reminded me to
look around and be aware of what is going on.
She also encouraged me to step off the beaten path and investigate
interesting things. The morning and
evening Zoë-Hour also gave me a precious opportunity to let my thoughts fly. I would come home inspired with new ideas and
insights to ponder. It was like a
runner’s-high.
As I walked to the
library, I found my thoughts falling back into my joyful dog-walking mode. I said a prayer of gratitude for Zoë’s
influence on my life.
Zoë’s spirit beats
in my heart.
·
Wednesday, 4 October 2006
My thoughts are
alive and bright as I reflect on the time I spent with my rambunctious,
exuberant, tailless Siberian Husky, Miss Zoë Mae.
Her spirit
continues to burn bright. Instead of
missing her, I fill my thoughts with all the joy and blessings she brought to
my life. My world is better; my heart is
larger, for having known her. In that
way she is always with me.
I am grateful for
the gifts she gave to me – the myriad, generous and unexpected lessons on loyalty,
curiosity, joy, playfulness, beauty, resourcefulness, discipline and most of
all, love.
Her spirit is a
light in the darkness – an affirmation of good, God.
(Miss Zoë’s
remains are buried in the woods at the lovely Georgia farm she has called home
while we have been here in Ukraine.)
·
Tuesday, 3 October 2006
Some people have a
wonderful capacity
to appreciate again
and again,
freshly and naively,
the basic goods of life,
with awe, pleasure, wonder, and even ecstasy.
- Abraham H.
Maslow
With Fall here, our
kitchen catches more sunshine. It is a pleasant place to linger. I lunched on a
sandwich of mayonnaise, black bread and a wonderful, huge, tomato with pepper
and salt. Now I am sipping black coffee and considering how I will miss the
fresh tomatoes that are a boon in summer and a treasure not to be bought in
winter. Soon our vegetable selection
will again be limited to potatoes, cabbage, carrots and beets.
Not quite time to
pull out the winter clothes, but the flat is chilly now. Time to wear slippers
and long sleeves indoors – no thermostats to adjust the indoor temperatures.
Like the
Ukrainians around us, we live close to nature here, closer that most American’s
do.
Life is good…
I woke up thinking
about how people live here.
A typical American
has been schooled to cultivate goals.
Even the most laid-back people have some idea, some expectations of how
things should go. We have a sense of control over our destiny. It may be an
illusion, but we believe we are in control.
We believe we have choices. We
expect to have choices.
We take
responsibility for our happiness usually. We expect to be able to pursue
happiness so we make ourselves crazy pursuing it when we should probably just
roll with things…relax, chill, breathe.
We are, as a culture, so type-A. Motivated.
Driven.
I have observed
our Ukrainian counterparts, and though this is all framed by generalizations
and against a background of my American belief system, I feel as though people
here take what life deals to them and simply run with it. No whining. No complaining.
The whole idea of
dealing with unexpected changes to such basic expectations as running water,
power, food, schedules ... this is difficult for Americans, while our Ukrainian
companions seem to cope - I think it is because they expect nothing. Or maybe
they expect the unexpected. Years of living this way has taught them to not get
too nonplussed. They simply do what they gotta do.
They also eat
chocolate and drink champagne (or vodka) – a way of consoling themselves for what
they can’t control…”Heck, at least I can have chocolate and bubbly!”
The average person
here does not seem to dream or hope or outline. They stay in the moment and
accept what they get.
But, life is good
here. And I am grateful to be the kind
of person Maslow referred to in the quote above.
It will be hard to
leave Ukraine when the time comes, but I will be grateful for the simple
blessings of routine, of choices, continuity, and the opportunity to hope and
dream.
·
Monday,
2 October 2006
A Day Online…
We both spent the
day at the library. In fact, I did not
get out of me seat from 0930 until 1745!
(No lunch break, no bathroom break, just tap, tap, tap on the keyboard!)
My agenda was to
complete a federal job application for a position and location I have
daydreamed about and recently discovered open!
I would love to have a shot at it, but the closeout day is Thursday.
It is really too
soon to submit applications, but this is serving as a wake-up call to get the data
online and ready so I can get serious about applications after Christmas. I actually thought I had the data in my
computer, but only just discovered a couple days ago that my application
materials are in hard copy back in sunny SC!
(This happened during my crazy medivac and recovery period when my life
felt a little like a bad soap opera! It
was sure gratifying in a time like that to discover how great my friends and
relatives are!)
So, I spent a
large part of the day trying to access my original PC application from their
data base so I could extract information from it…no success so far, but some leads
to pursue tomorrow.
Technology is
great, when it works. I had to get a password, etc…and with time differences
between continents, etc, the whole day escaped with little real progress.
I still have to
wrestle with a federal service resume – unlike resumes for civilian
applications which are essentially fluff that lure HR folks into interviewing
you, these federal resumes are highly personalized and require extensive
information (including things like the exact number of semester hours for
various qualifying courses, previous supervisor’s phone numbers, etc). The people who get these jobs are clearly
dedicated bureaucrats! The application process is an effective screening devise
and not for the faint of heart.
·
Sunday, 1 October 2006
Let us be grateful
to people who make us happy;
they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.
-
Marcel Proust
Mark is Home
Again…
A nice way to
start a new month: at home together and happy.
He was like Santa
Claus- he came bearing gifts! He managed
to find a copy of “Everything is Illuminated” – a film about Ukraine, starring
Elijah Wood. He also found another rather obscure DVD I have wanted to see for several
years. I did not even know the name of it actually so his sleuthing is pretty
impressive! (It involves a woman and two soldiers, none of whom speak the same language.
The two soldiers are enemies. I believe
they are Russian, Finnish and German. They are trapped on an island.)
He bought himself
a copy of what he thought was the popular film “The DaVinci Code” but it turned
out to be a DVD about the film…sigh.
He also brought
home some great soviet-era Ukrainian classic films and a DVD of Kozbar music –
a kind of Ukrainian traditional music which we have become interested in.
So we have some
entertainment to look forward to on the long winter evenings ahead!